I fucking hate it when people say the woman is stupid for staying with her abuser and it’d be so easy to leave.
NO IT ISN’T.
7 years later it’s still a possibility I consider. That 70% window doesn’t really close. No matter how far you move (3,000 miles, then another 1,000), or how different your life becomes. Staying in one place sometimes feels like a slowly accumulating weight.
I guess I never really thought about it that way before.
People who blame the victim can literally just go into space without a helmet
It’s really fucked me before up looking at stats in my state of women & children killed by men in DV incidents in a year because how close to being that were we? Pretty close I think but how much longer would it have been?
A girl I knew from high school was killed by her husband a few years ago. In articles about the murder there was a man in the comments who put the whole thing on her, for not leaving. On top of having two young children with her much older husband, which makes just picking up and going pretty tough, the woman in question HAD left; he became enraged during a phone call and came to where she was staying and strangled her. But that didn’t matter to the man in the comments with his “she could have left” (and attitude he also turned on women who spoke up to say that they’d been in that situation too and he didn’t know what he was talking about).
I’ve heard men say straight-up that they have “no sympathy” for a woman who stays with a man who hits her; well, that’s nice, I have no conception of you as a human being anymore in that case.
dudes who equate feminism with equality with being allowed to punch ladies are so fucking scary. like, how badly do you want to punch girls, dude? how is that the first and most important part of equality for you?! WHY DO YOU WANT TO HIT LADIES SO BAD?! how often are you thinking about this?! i am terrified.