Warning for Trans Youth in Southern Ontario
Avoid Dr. Kenneth Zucker of the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) in Toronto. He will not help you in any way and upon asking many invasive, disrespectful, and irrelevant questions, he will suggest you undergo “reparative therapy” to “fix” you (pictured above). When he finishes writing his “report”, which can take months, he will refer to you in an extremely dehumanizing manner that makes you out to be some kind of oddity (eg “He seems very interested in having breasts.”) and he will not respect your gender or use the correct pronouns whatsoever. Not only that, but when he requests your report cards and school pictures (???) he will really take his time in giving them back when you ask him to. Good luck contacting him outside of an appointment, too, as he very rarely, if ever, responds to emails or phone calls. He has stated he considers trans women a “bad outcome of gay men.” Don’t waste your time with this transphobic piece of shit.
Yes yes yes I’m so happy people are talking about this. That clinic works under the old DSM criteria. If you are looking for physical health or mental health or family support around gender please contact Rainbow Health Ontario or the new trans clinic at Sick Kids.
A lot of parents especially go to that clinic with their kids because it’s affiliated with such a well know national agency and they assume it will be the best support. If you hear anyone talking about it please correct them, it is very harmful. :(
I wrote a post last year about an amazing Ontario doctor who specializes in health-care for trans youth, Dr. Carys Massarella. She is the lead Physician of the Transcare Program at Quest Community Health Centre in St. Catharine’s, and is currently one of only three ‘non-pathologizing’ trans-care health providers in Ontario. ‘Non-Pathologizing’ means that when a trans-patient comes in to speak with her about care and care options, their trans identity is:
- not questioned
- not treated as something needing to be fixed
- not pathologized as a mental illness which requires a psychiatric evaluation before proceeding with care options.
If you’re a trans youth looking for health-care (or know any trans youth whose families are hoping to get medical support for them), please DO NOT go to/recommend Dr. Zucker at CAMH. He is severely transphobic and is only looking to ‘fix’ trans kids who he thinks are ‘confused’. Instead, two hospitals that are doing good work for transfolks in the GTA and surrounding area are St. Mike’s in Toronto and St. Joseph’s in Hamilton. Both are (surprisingly) Catholic hospitals, but have made reputations for themselves as providing ethical care for the LGBTQ community. Carys herself is a member of the St. Joseph’s health staff, and says that her transition was embraced at the hospital and its catholic staff, including its nuns. As well, Dr. Massarella’s practice, Quest Community Heath Centre, is a fantastic resource if you can get out to St. Catherine’s.
Reblogging for new information
Personally been hearing some things about CAMH that run the gamut from “sketchy” to “terrifying” for years now from people I personally know, so like, boosting.
hello my nerdy tumblr friends
i just watched a TED talk from a game designer who created a game to help her recover from depression and suicidal thoughts called SuperBetter, and i’ve started checking it out myself and it’s really awesome!
It’s designed to work as a game, where you improve specific aspects of your life with tailored goals to help you get over your personal problem (whether that be depression, anxiety, getting healthier or generally just being more awesome). You can also “recruit” your friends so that they can also help you achieve your goal.
The TED talk i found this out from is actually on netflix under TED Life Hacks, and it explains the reasoning and science behind the game, and it’s really interesting and helpful to watch.
I know a lot of people i’m friends with/who follow me here on tumblr tend to be suffering from either depression or anxiety or self-image issues and also happen to be huge gamers (nerrrrds) so i thought i’d post this here as a way to help everyone else. my therapist told me one of the best ways to beat depression is to develop a toolbox of different ways to help yourself and for others to help you. while i’m treating this website as one tool, it’s like, one of those crazy multitools that has like three screwdrivers and a laser pointer and pliers and weird tools you don’t even know the name of all in one.
this is literally my worst nightmare. This is why I’m terrified to become a parent. This is why, despite others telling my not to work so a damn hard, I tried and tried and tried for the whole past year to repair my relationship with my partner’s mother and stepfather. They finally disowned us only about ten days ago, and I’m SCARED. I was attributing it to my anxiety disorder, but now that I read this article, I know that my fear is valid. This is happening right now - and it could happen to any of my beautiful trans siblings.
See, this is why marriage equality isn’t the most important issue. This is why we’ve been shouting and stomping our feet and never. shutting. up. It’s because children are being stripped of their parents for no other reason than THEIR PARENTS ARE HATEFUL BIGOTS.
Daniel and Cindy are young parents whose world has been turned upside down because Daniel is transgender. He transitioned over a decade ago when he was 19, and few people know that he is transgender. When Daniel and Cindy decided to have children, they told Cindy’s parents that Daniel is transgender because they were conceiving in vitro with donated sperm.
And, I suppose, they must also have trusted that her parents would continue to accept their son-in-law.
This was a mistake.
Cindy gave birth to healthy twins 2 ½ years ago, and Daniel and Cindy and the twins have been very happy – except for one problem.
Cindy’s parents make rude comments about Daniel being transgender, and they do it in front of the twins.
Requests for them to stop are met with mirth.
Daniel and Cindy put up with this behavior for a long while, but as the twins are getting older, they worry that the negative comments are harmful, and they don’t want to be forced to try and explain concepts to their young children that are beyond their ability or need to understand – in vitro, transgender.
Daniel and Cindy made the difficult decision that the grandparents are no longer welcome in their lives.
The grandparents got angry and sued for custody of the children.
The twins have two loving parents.
Child Protective Services have never been called; there have been no police reports of abuse; neither parent has a criminal record.
Last week, a court removed the twins from their home and gave custody to the grandparents.
Their father is transgender.
Daniel and Cindy are working with a lawyer to try and get their children back.
Will they get them back? Who knows? What we do know that the children have pulled out of their home and are living with two people who demean and ridicule their father.Names have been changed, as the story hasn’t hit the news yet - offering the family privacy until they choose to take it public. more at the link above.
Hey, all you folks, you 29,330+ who have reblogged our transawareness post - this is important.
This is why organizations like GLAAD and FCKH8 and HRC are so damaging. Because when they mock, misgender, ignore, insult, and silence us, this is the result. A loving, happy family that’s been ripped apart.
You want to do more than just reblog awareness posts? Stop supporting those businesses (YES, FCKH8 IS A BUSINESS) and organizations that try to shut us out and shut us down.
ATTENTION FRIENDS, FOLLOWERS, CREEPERS, HATEFOLLOWERS, ETC.
Even if you don’t normally support and/or pay attention to Movember, you should should support my glorious partner Quen Took’s Mospace. He’s raising money not only for cancer charities, but also for mental health organisations, trans* support organisations, and organisations that support cis and trans* men who have experienced sexual abuse, and.
As he is unable to grow his own facial hair, being a trans* man who is pre-testosterone, he will be creating a different piece of false facial hair every day of November, and uploading the (fabulous) photographs.
If you can donate even a little, or just cheerlead him along the way, you will get to appreciate his magnificently inventive and seemingly endless* repertoire of facial hair.
*(may seem less endless as November crawls on, but if you donate you may be able to make requests/suggestions. Myself, I have ten quid for a Jafar beard.)
So go forth, support him, and enjoy his facial hair artistry while supporting immensely worthy causes.
Here’s the link again, in case you missed my embedding it: http://uk.movember.com/mospace/8083201
And even if you can’t, or if you can, please do us the favour of reblogging or reposting this wherever to signal boost it. :)
Let me just start this off that I feel incredibly awkward making this post since I’m not usually one to ask for help in any way whatsoever but for those of you who haven’t heard, I was robbed yesterday.
I was at work when two men came in and took my stuff while I was getting something them from the back. The items included was my iPhone (which was a wallet as well, thus taking my driver’s license, my bank card, and debit card), my 3DS and a few games. Obviously, the last bit is negiable and unimportant. Thankfully no one was hurt in this instance.
However, I have no bank card now and I have no credit card due to this as well, which means I have no access to my money aside from my paypal. Which means I cannot eat, buy gas, feed my two dogs and two cats until I get a replacement card which won’t be for another few weeks. My account has been locked down tighter than a drum and for that I am thankful but you can see with bills and other issues, I’m in dire straights.
My point in all this is that, I would really appreciate it if I could get some help in this situation. I don’t expect many people to just throw money at me without getting something in return, so I’ll be doing drabbles and stories for anyone who chips in. Every person who donates any money will get a drabble from me.
I’ll do a drabble of any character or person that you like for any donation up to $5.
Anything between $5 and $10 will get a 1k word drabble
And for anyone who gives me an amount above $10 will get a drabble/story of 2k+ of any pairing, character, etc.
My PayPal is email@example.com. If you’re able to help in any way possible, I would appreciate it to no end. In fact, I’m humbled that anyone would even show token interest in my situation.
Send me a description of what you’d like me to write along with your PayPal donation, and I’ll be certain to send the finished product to the email you used for that transaction - be specifc if you want a particular pairing or be general if you are fine with anything
.Or, if you’d rather, you could send me an email at the aforementioned address with your tumblr info and I could post the drabble/writing here with your username attached.
I have no problem with name-dropping considering how kind you are being just by considering me at this time.
And for everyone who even considers helping me, or to anyone who has given me advice or a single kind word throughout this ordeal: thank you, so much. Your kindness means more to me than I could ever put to words. I mean that.
FANDOMS I AM FAMILIAR WITH (in no particular order):
- harry potter
- game of thrones
- legend of korra/ avatar the last airbender
- attack on titan/shingeki no kyojin
- sailor moon
- mass effect
- dragon age
- the elder scrolls series
- battlestar galactica
- teen wolf
- the vampire diaries
- once upon a time
- kingdom hearts
Just reblogging this even if you don’t plan to help just to get this out there would be greatly appreciated. I would really like to feed my pets at the very least.
okay so halloween is coming up let’s all agree to stay away from sugar skull makeup unless you are latin@ and fully recognize that dia de los muertos is a completely different holiday from halloween thank
Donate to Mexico Storm Victims
Call 1-800-842-2200 to help those affected by major storms in Mexico
The American Red Cross has set up a phone number to donate directly to Mexico storm and flood victims.
Hundreds of municipalities are devastated, more than 1 million homeless, road closures, thousands of homes and buildings are underwater, landslides, collapsed bridges and airports closed or barely operating. Please donate today.
My name is Rashida. I’m a Black genderqueer filmmaker in Columbus and I’m working on an LGBT short film that will be premiering in Columbus, OH on October 26th. We’re still casting for a main character Xavier who is a Black (or Afro-Latino) pre-op transguy (early to mid-20s; athletic build).
This short will be one of a 4 part series and will be submitted to film festivals. We’re also casting for supporting roles, extras and are doing an open call for Ohio queer artists of color.
For more information, follow the link and contact me!
If anyone in California is interested in adopting a dog or a cat, Kerns County Animal Shelter ( one of the most disgraceful shelters in California ) is being shut down. Dogs are being sold for 15$ and cats for 5$ ( all are fixed with shots. )
Every animal will be put down by September 30th.
Go here for more information.
This is happening, NOW. You should go make a contrib! And then tell your friends and family and coworkers and colleagues and bosses and rich aunties and uncles to go give. I mean, that’s seriously the only way this’ll work you guys.
Tumblr, I have a signal boost type thing for you!!
Recently I bought a binder from this brand of binders off of eBay, and I was rather happy with it! I know that binders can be very expensive, but bought off eBay these are pretty gosh darn cheap - about $8, including shipping!
I would recommend this for smaller to medium sized chested trans*/genderqueer individuals— I myself am a 34C and while it did not completely flatten my chest, it was a very sizeable difference and looked more like pectoral muscles than anything else, even in a tight t-shirt. I do not know how this binder would fit on chests larger than mine.
HOWEVER! One thing to be wary of— Though I did not buy from this seller in particular, I did buy from this same brand. So, just in case: This particular binder does not / may not come in discreet packaging. If your living situation is that where you are not “out” or would not be safe with a parent/guardian/roommate knowing (or at least avoiding awkward questions, the lattermost I know from experience) I do not recommend this product. It’s literally labeled “binder” and comes in semi-transparent packaging. Please be careful and protect yourself if this is risky for you!!
Otherwise, for small-to-medium on a tight budget looking for binding solutions, I would highly recommend this product! It comes in white, grey and black.
Mine cost $7.41Boosting.
Hello everyone, it is today I’m writing with horrible news. I don’t know if anyone who sees this has seen my last post but if not I’ll do a quick recap
So my cat came home after a few days of being missing, there are a lot of cats missing in my neighborhood and there is someone stealing cats from backyards and in the alley where most outdoor cats in our neighborhood hang out. Smokey, my cat, came home looking like the picture above, with a huge tear in his throat. Someone had abused him while he was missing. We took him to the vet and the vet said “The surgery would cost $888” and we do not have that money, I live with my Mom in a small house we rent and my father does not pay child support, meaning what little money we get from my Mom working, it goes to rent and utilities. We did have a little money saved up, but my uncle has passed away and we used it to go towards his funeral and airplane tickets. We told the vet we did not have the money and he said after debating it that he would do it for free. We were overwhelmed, Smokey got his surgery done.
Turns out, the surgery did not go as planned and we are being forced to pay a total of $1000 for his surgery. We honestly cannot pay it, and if we don’t pay it they will refuse to do any more work on him, meaning removing the stitches and the big straw in his throat that removed liquids. Therefore he will die.
So I am turning to tumblr, I’ve seen you guys preform miracles, and all I am asking is if you can get word around. See even donating $5 is a lot and will be going to paying off his surgery. I need your help. I love Smokey he is my 4 year old handsome baby. He is so much more then a cat, he is a part of my family, and we can’t see him go
My paypal email is firstname.lastname@example.org
Go to this link to donate: https://www.paypal.com/webapps/mpp/send-money-online
Thank you everyone so much! This was posted as of 08/01/2013
Edit: Anyone that donates can tell me their URL and I will put their URL on my blog forever with a sign saying to follow you! Also, if we do raise the money, which I believe we can, I will keep everyone updated with pictures! We can do this you guys! <3
really really important!!! PLEASE reblog and donate if you can!
Remember the Mixteco trilingual MC, Miguel Villegas? He’s raising money to attend the Ve’e Tu’un Savi A.C., the Mixtec Language Academy conference in Tlaxiaco, Oaxaca, at the end of this month.
Ve’e Tu’un Savi A.C. gathers academics and native speakers of Mixteco from Mexico and the United to develop a writing system that will help preserve this beautiful Indigenous language.
Visit Miguel’s GoFundMe page and contribute $10, $20, or whatever you’re able to. If you appreciate this effort but are unable to chip in right now, please share this post with your friends and help spread the word. Thank you!
Apparently there are threats being made to female con goers of Anime Weekend Atlanta that they will be hunted down and raped?
If anyone gets any ANY ANY anons or asks or fanmails about being raped or harmed at AWA, please inform the staff so they can beef up security as well as delete those anons and not respond to them.
Cosplay does not mean consent. No means no.
Rape is never fucking okay.
signal boosting this
(trigger warning for rape) (i thought when i reblogged it the trigger warning tags came through, but they didn’t - my apologies for the oversight)
Trying not to cry…
Via Gorilla Pig on fb, meme source here: http://kfor.com/2013/06/25/convicted-sex-offender-gets-sole-custody-of-6-year-old-daughter/
Sorry to reblog this again in the same day followers but this is really fucking upsetting me and I want to DO something to help this poor little girl and her family, please reblog especially if you are from oklahoma (where the court case was) or california (where the court ordered she has move with her “dad”) please signal boost! If you have any additional info or want to make a plan of actual action message me!!! Thank you.