6 months ago
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Leslie Morgan Steiner: Why domestic violence victims don’t leave

I fucking hate it when people say the woman is stupid for staying with her abuser and it’d be so easy to leave. 


7 years later it’s still a possibility I consider. That 70% window doesn’t really close. No matter how far you move (3,000 miles, then another 1,000), or how different your life becomes. Staying in one place sometimes feels like a slowly accumulating weight.

I guess I never really thought about it that way before.

People who blame the victim can literally just go into space without a helmet

It’s really fucked me before up looking at stats in my state of women & children killed by men in DV incidents in a year because how close to being that were we? Pretty close I think but how much longer would it have been?

A girl I knew from high school was killed by her husband a few years ago. In articles about the murder there was a man in the comments who put the whole thing on her, for not leaving. On top of having two young children with her much older husband, which makes just picking up and going pretty tough, the woman in question HAD left; he became enraged during a phone call and came to where she was staying and strangled her. But that didn’t matter to the man in the comments with his “she could have left” (and attitude he also turned on women who spoke up to say that they’d been in that situation too and he didn’t know what he was talking about).

I’ve heard men say straight-up that they have “no sympathy” for a woman who stays with a man who hits her; well, that’s nice, I have no conception of you as a human being anymore in that case.

11 months ago
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Help needed: funeral expenses and moving costs »


(TW: Domestic Violence)

I’ve never made a post like this before. But I’ve seen the tumblr community do amazing things, and I’m hoping you can help.

My friend, Georgina, had a 30-year-old sister named Penelope who was killed on May 9th as a result of domestic violence. Penelope had three beautiful girls, all under the age of 8, who are now left without a mother and with a father on the run. 


The plan is for the girls to be placed in the custody of their grandparents, but the family is in desperate need of funds to make this happen. Friends are coordinating a fundraiser to cover the funeral expenses and moving/ongoing transportation costs. The goal is $20,000, and if anything is raised beyond that, it will go toward the substantial expense of rearing three young girls. 

Any amount you are able to contribute would be a big help to these little girls and this woman’s stunned, grieving family.

If you aren’t able to donate, please consider a signal boost. Thank you. 

1 year ago
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huerca zafada: on being good »


1. Good Victims only have one bad relationship ever, because they learn from their mistakes.

2. Good Victims always cut their abusers/rapists out of their lives immediately, no matter how high the cost or the dangers involved.

3. Good Victims are never angry, they do not lash out, they do not…

1 year ago
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PSA of the Day: YouTube makeup guru Lauren Luke is using her powers for good with a tutorial on how to cover up the physical effects of domestic violence — but her message is not quite what you’d assume.

Join Luke’s campaign to help women break the silence here.

Excuse me while I sit here, crying at the dining room table. Please talk about this stuff, people. You are worth the world and no one deserves to be treated any less.

Even if we’ve never met, even if we don’t know each other, please don’t hesitate to message me. I’ll always have an open ear and heart.